Iraq's constitutional Quagmire

The situation in Iraq is a great watch (I'm so glad I don't live there though). You have 3 different groups that are very unbalanced (both economically and population wise) and need to be stitched together. It does seem really strange that the the Shiite want Islam to have a guiding role, they live next to Iran! I wonder if this is due to years of misinformation about Iran's condition or simply part of the cultural difference (Arab vs Persian). But if Iraq wants be a democracy they'll have to give in to the Shiite since they are the vast majority. It's too bad they don't have more time to come up with a more interesting or intricate solution. Either way it seems like a bad idea to draft a constitution under such duress with soo much at stake (a very real possibility of a civil war).

How can you reconcile the fact that the majority of the population want women to be second class citizen and those who want them to be free (Kurds at ~20% of the population)?